Human Issues

Often people seek counselling to eliminate symptoms of anxiety, depression or guilt.

We all, as human beings, are struggling with existential issues such as finding a purpose in life, coming to terms with our limitations, fears, death anxiety and loss of the ones we love.

Feelings of emptiness, grief, confusion and desperation often stem from lack of awareness of our true desires as well as the tendency to depend on the approval of others and rely on a system of meaning established by others. We end up leading a very constricted and limited life losing sight of who we truly are and neglecting our potentiality and inner needs.

In the society we live in, we tend to numb ourselves by engaging in self-deceptive activities such as working, shopping, being fit, using substances when there is an underlying crisis of meaning and feeling of emptiness.

This void often comes from the realisation that there is not an intrinsic meaning in life. As the philosopher Juan Paul Sartre once said:

“Before you come alive, life is nothing; it’s up to you to give it a meaning, and value is nothing else but the meaning that you choose.“(Sartre,1947)

We are condemned to be free and we are responsible for everything we do. Avoiding taking responsibility for our present or past choices is a common way of coping with the anxiety provoking awareness of our freedom.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing .
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

Jelaluddin Rumi

From Essential Rumi
by Coleman Barks
13 century Persian poem